Frequently Asked Questions

Questions

Registration and Account Management How do I register? Will I receive email from ChoresForRewards.com? Why am I not receiving email from ChoresForRewards.com? Can I add another child after signing up? How do I update my email address? General Is this website really free? Does this approach work? For what ages of children does this site work best? How do young children benefit from ChoresForRewards.com? How do older children benefit from ChoresForRewards.com? How do parents benefit from ChoresForRewards.com? How can I contact ChoresForRewards.com? Creating Chore Lists How can I create a new chore list for my child? Can my children use the same chore list? What is the difference between a daily chore list and a special chore list? Can I have my child enter chores weekly instead of daily? Can I create a chore list that is only used for school report cards? Can I create a chore list that is used on vacation? Entering Chores Does my child have to login? How do I use ChoresForRewards.com with children too young to enter chores? How can I fill out a chore list for my child? Can I print out chore lists and then enter them all at a later time? How can I print chore lists? How do kids fill out a special chore list? Rewards Can I use ChoresForRewards.com to manage allowances? Do I have to offer my kids cash rewards? How can I only allow cash rewards? How can I only allow non-cash rewards? How do I use Chores for Rewards with children too young to select rewards? How can I select rewards for my child? Can I see a history of all the rewards my children have requested? Is there any easy way to increase the allowance of my child? Forums Why am I not being allowed to enter my own posts on the Forums? Can I submit an idea for a new forum to be hosted by ChoresForRewards.com? Can my children read forum messages? Can my children write in the forums? Parenting Resources How can I suggest additional parenting resources for ChoresForRewards.com? Will ChoresForRewards.com host parenting articles that I wrote?

Answers

Registration and Account Management How do I register?

Registration is easy - it only takes a minute. You can even see a quick video here. When registering, you will be asked for the minimum information required for you to use the site and none of your information will be shared with third-parties. As a parent, you must have an email so that we can notify you when your child submits their chore lists.

Spouse information is optional. If you create an account for your spouse, then they will be able to login separately and approve your child's chore lists and reward requests. They will also be notified when your child submits their chore list.

To use the site, you must register at least one child. The age of the child is requested so that ChoresForRewards.com can create an initial list of chores that is age appropriate; however, you can customize these chores to your own liking. Email is optional for children. If your child is old enough and uses email, then ChoresForRewards can notify them when you approve chore lists or reward requests.

Will I receive email from ChoresForRewards.com?

Parents have the ability to optionally setup email notifications for:

  • Send me email when my child submits their chores.
  • Send me email when my child requests a reward.
  • Send my child email when I approve or deny a reward.

To receive or disable these emails, click on the Account Info tab and then click on the appropriate checkbox.

Note, you will not receive marketing email from ChoresForRewards and ChoresForRewards will not release your email address to third-parties.

Enabling or Disabling Emails

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Account Info Tab
  • Check Off Emails that You Want to Receive
Why am I not receiving email from ChoresForRewards.com?

If you are not receiving email, click on the Account Info tab and make sure that you have selected the types of email that you would like to receive. See below:

Also check that your email address is entered properly on this page. See example below:

If you still have problems, send a note to ChoresForRewards from the Contact Us page or directly to support@choresforrewards.com

Can I add another child after signing up?

Yes! When you initially register, you should enter at least one child. However, you can enter additional children at any time. To add additional children, login to ChoresForRewards and then click on the "Account Info" tab. You will then see your registration information. Enter your child's registration information on this page and then click "Register":

When you add children, ChoresForRewards will automatically create a default chore list that you will see on your parent homepage. You can then customize that chore list for the child that you added.

How do I update my email address?

You can update your email address on the Account Info tab. Simply erase your old email address and type in the new email address. Then hit tab or select another field and you will see the Update button. Click on the Update button and your email address will be changed.

General Is this website really free?

Yes - ChoresForRewards is free! There are no plans to add subscription or service fees. In fact, there currently isn't even ads! We may show ads in the future, but there will be no subscription or service fees for users. Parenting is already expensive enough! So, enjoy the site and hopefully it makes your life a little easier.

Does this approach work?

Some people refer to this type of approach as behavioral modification. That sounds a little academic. But basically, if you clearly set your expectations of your children's behavior with appropriate rewards and consequences, you're children will adapt. They will find that they are getting rewarded for "doing the right thing". Over time, they will realize that if they behave even better, they will get rewarded more.

It is a good idea to start with really basic expectations (i.e. clean up your dishes, make your bed, go to bed on the first asking, etc.). Once the children realize that they are being positively recognized for doing their chores and behaving, they will then be ready to take on more responsibility and handle more challenging behavioral expectations. You can then reduce the rewards for the initial chores and add more challenging chores. By reducing the rewards for the original chores, you can limit raises to their allowance yet at the same time, get the children to perform more useful chores and exhibit better behavior

ChoresForRewards works! If you take the time to setup the chore lists, encourage your children to fill them out daily or weekly, and reward them as promised, then it will work!

For what ages of children does this site work best?

The site can be used for any age child essentially, but its really effective for 4 - 12 old children.

For children that cannot read, type, login to the website, you can enter their chores for them - you should explain why they completed a chore as well as why they are getting a reward.

For children that can login to ChoresForRewards, the site works best if you set realistic mandatory chores and behaviors, encourage your children to log their chores at the end of each day and then update the chore list every four to six months. Note, you can have your children enter chores weekly, but daily works better because the chores are fresh in the child's mind and the daily visit to their chore list reinforces the daily need to behave

A number of people have joked that they wish they could use this site for themselves as parents! So, even when your kids are teenagers, this remains a good tool to keep a list of your expectations and reward them for appropriate behavior

How do young children benefit from ChoresForRewards.com?

ChoresForRewards is great for young children. Even if you have to enter the chores and select the rewards for your child, you are setting a clear expectation of how you expect them to behave. If you reward them for positive behavior, they will develop better ways to handle situations. They will also listen to you more and talk back less. This will work - when the rules are written in black and white, there is not much to argue about. It is up to the child to make the right choices - ChoresForRewards will help them do that!

Instilling good behaviors in children at a young age is very important. They learn tremendously during these years and teaching the right values (by encouraging them to do chores and behave appropriately) is an important component in the process of raising children

How do older children benefit from ChoresForRewards.com?

As children mature and they become more independent with more influence from friends, its important that you continually reinforce the values that you believe in as a parent. The kids will certainly want money to buy clothes, music, etc, so providing these rewards based on good behavior is still very important for older children.

How do parents benefit from ChoresForRewards.com?

By establishing a clear list of chores, expected behaviors and rewards, there will be less debate from your child about what is expected of them on a routine basis. Over time, your child will perform their mandatory chores without question. They will also behave better because they are given positive feedback for their good behavior.

As a parent, you can setup any reward system you choose. You can decide what chores and behaviors are mandatory as well as what warrants special attention (i.e. bonus or gold star activities). You can make mandatory chores worth no value or even negative value if your child doesn't perform the activity. You can also determine if you want to reward your child with a cash reward (i.e. allowance) or non-cash rewards such as playtime with yourself, additional television time, etc.

ChoreForRewards.com provides a simple system for you to set the rules of the house for your children. By establishing these expectations of your child, your child will argue less, behave better and hopefully reduce stress in your household.

How can I contact ChoresForRewards.com?

You can contact ChoresForRewards.com by sending email to support@choresforrewards.com or by clicking on Contact Us in the top right corner of every page.

Entering Chores How can I create a new chore list for my child?

On the homepage, there is a quick video that shows you how to create chore lists.

When you sign-up or add a child to ChoresForRewards.com, a default chore list is created for your child. You will see this chore list on your homepage - its called Daily Chores for Child's Name. You can modify this chore list as much as you want. You can add or remove chores and you can change whether chores are mandatory, bonus, gold star or negative. You can also change the values of chores to whatever is appropriate for you and your child.

Sometimes you might want to create additional chore lists. This might be because:

  • You deleted the original default chore list
  • You want to create a new daily chore list, but keep the old chore list around for reference.
  • You want to create a special chore list that is only used for specific events (i.e. for vacation, report cards, etc).

Create New Chore List

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Chores Tab
  • Click on Create New Chore List

When you create a new chore list, you should change the title, add the new chores and behavior expectations and then click "Finished Editing" when complete. After that, the new chore list will appear on your home page in the "Setup Chores" tab. You will see that the chore list is marked as a "Special" chore list. This means that it is not the daily default chore list for your child. Instead, this chore list could be used for any day and points can be earned for special events. If you would like to make this new chore list the daily chore list for your child, you can select this chore list next to your child's name in the "Daily Chore List Assignments" box below the list of chore lists on your home page in the "Setup Chores" tab.

Can my children use the same chore list?

Yes, to allow multiple children to use the same chore list, select the same chore list for each child in the "Daily Chore List Assignments" box below the list of chore lists on your home page in the "Setup Chores" tab. Note, you can share the default chore list of one of your children or you can create a new chore list.

Sharing a Chore List

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Chores Tab
  • Select the Same Chore List for Each Child

Note: If you are sharing the default chore list of one of your children, you might want to rename the chore list first by clicking on the edit icon and then changing the chore list title.

What is the difference between a daily chore list and a special chore list?

Daily chore lists are expected to be entered every day of the week (or every weekday if you prefer). This list contains the mandatory chores that you expect of a child each day. You can also include bonus chores in this list that a child could perform on any given day.

Special chore lists are chore lists that are used only on special occassions. For instance, if you wanted to setup a chore list for "Visit Disney World", you could put specific chores or more likely behavior expectations that you expect of your child while at Disney World. You can also create special chore lists for report cards, trips to grandparents, etc. Children can fill out special chore lists by clicking on the "Calendar" tab on their home page, selecting the date for the special chore list and then selecting the special chore list from the pulldown and clicking on "Create". As a parent, you can fill out special chore lists for your child by doing the same on the "Calendar" tab on your homepage.

You can only have one daily chore list for each child, but you can have many special chore lists for each child. Note, that if you have chore lists that you want to keep, but don't want your children to be able to fill out, then uncheck the "Active" checkbox.

In the image below, you can see one daily chore list, one active special chore list and two older chore lists that are no longer active:

Can I have my child enter chores weekly instead of daily?

Its not mandatory to fill out chore lists on a daily basis, but it is recommended. If you prefer to enter chores weekly, its best to print out the chore list and then have your child fill it out daily. Then at the end of the week, your child or you can login and enter the chores into ChoresForRewards.com using the printed chore lists with the activities performed each day. If you or your child can remember what was done each day, then you could skip using the printed out lists and just login once a week and enter the chores. However, this is less effective then having children enter their chores daily (whether it be at ChoresForRewards.com or on a printed chore list).

Can I create a chore list that is only used for school report cards?

Yes, this is a great example of a "Special Chore List". You can create a special chore list by clicking on "Create New Chore List" in My Home under the "Setup Chores" tab. Then name the chore list appropriately and start adding activities that are worth points (i.e. Get an A in Math). When you are complete, click on "Finish Editing". The chore list will then be active and appear on your homepage as a special chore list.

When your child receieves their report card, your child can fill out this chore list by clicking on the "Calendar" tab and then selecting the day for which you want to add the special chore list. (Note: if you want to fill out the chore list as a parent, select the "Enter Chores for Child" tab and then select the day.) Once the day has been selected, your child or you will see tabs for the daily chore lists. However, instead of using these chore lists, select the new special chore list listed under "Create Special Chore List". If you are entering the chores as a parent and have more than one child, then select the child's name. Next, click "Create". Your child or you will then be able to fill out the chore list.

Using a special chore list for report cards is a convenient way to reward a child on the days of the year that the child receives their grades. Keeping these activities on a different chore list from the daily chore list makes sense for some parents.

Can I create a chore list that is used on vacation?

Yes, this is another good example where a daily chore list might not make sense. When on vacation, many of the household chores are not applicable. Additionally, there may be extra behavioral expectations of the child (i.e. Don't ask to buy everything, No running by the pool, etc.).

Of course you could simply skip filling out chore lists while on vacation, but realistically children still have responsibilities to help out and behave well even while on vacation. You can create a special chore list for vacations by following the instructions above for creating a special chore list for report cards. After that, if you are not going to be near a computer, print out a bunch of copies and have a great time!

Entering Chores Does my child have to login?

No, if your child is too young or otherwise unable to login to ChoresForRewards.com, you can enter chores and select rewards for your child.

How do I use ChoresForRewards.com with children too young to enter chores?

As a parent of a young child, you can still benefit from using ChoresForRewards. Even though your child is too young take full advantage of ChoresForRewards, they will still benefit from understanding their expected behavior and being rewarded for proper behavior. This reinforcement of good behavior is a positive way to teach children what you belief is right and wrong.

See the next question to understand how to fill out a chore list for your child on ChoresForRewards.com.

When entering chores for children that are too young, its still a good idea to make sure to explain what they did well so they understand why they will be rewarded. Depending on the child's age and your preferences, you might want to review the chores daily or weekly. Also depending on age, you may want to show the child either a printed list or the chore list on ChoresForRewards so they understand what they did well.

How can I fill out a chore list for my child?

You can enter chores for children by logging in as a parent and selecting the "Enter Chores for Child" tab. On this tab, you can select the day of the chores on the calendar and then enter chores for your child. Alternatively, you can login as your child and enter their chores.

Instructions to Fill Out Chore List as Parent

  • Login as a Parent
  • Select "Enter Chores for Child" Tab to See the Calendar
  • Select Date for Chores on Calendar to See Chore List
  • Check Chores that are Completed
  • Press "Approve" After Entering Chores
Can I print out chore lists and then enter them all at a later time?

Yes, some children and parents prefer to use printed copies of the chore list during the week and then enter the chores at the end of the week. When using printed copies, its still a good idea for children to fill in their chores daily. Its also still a good idea for parents to review the chores daily. At the end of the week, the child or parent can login, select each of the appropriate days and enter the chores based on the printed and filled out chore lists.

If you are the type of family that is on the computer daily, its probably better to login to ChoresForRewards.com and enter the chores online rather than on printed copies.

How can I print chore lists?

You can print chore lists by clicking on the printer icon next to the appropriate chore list on the "Setup Chores" tab on your homepage. Children can print chore lists by clicking on the printer icon next to the appropriate chore list on the "Summary" tab on the child's homepage.

Printing Chores as a Parent

  • Login as a Parent
  • Go to the Setup Chores Tab on the Your Homepage
  • Click on the Printer Icon
  • You Will See a PDF Version of the Chore List
  • Print the PDF

Printing Chores as a Child

  • Login as Your Child
  • Click on the Printer Icon on the Summary Tab
  • You Will See a PDF Version of the Chore List
  • Print the PDF
How do kids fill out a special chore list?

Kids fill out special chore lists by clicking on the "Calendar" tab and then selecting the day for which they want to fill out a special chore list. Once the day is selected, your child will see "Create Special Chore List". They should select the appropriate special chore list and click "Create". They will then be able to enter the special chores and submit for your review.

As a parent, you can enter special chores for a child. Select the "Enter Chores for Child" tab and then select the day. Once the day is selected, you will see "Create Special Chore List". Select the appropriate special chore list and click "Create". Then enter the special chores and either submit for your later review or approve immediately.

Instructions for Children to Enter a Special Chore List

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Calendar Tab to See Calendar
  • Click on the Day for Which the Child Wants to Enter Special Chores
  • Select Special Chore List and Press "Create"
  • Check Chores that are Completed
  • Press "Ready for Parent Approval" After Entering Chores
Rewards Can I use ChoresForRewards.com to manage allowances?

Yes, ChoresForRewards is a good tool for setting and managing allowances. You can allow your child to get cash rewards (i.e. allowance) by clicking on the "Setup Rewards" tab. By default 500 points is worth $5.00, but you can change value of points in the "Point Analysis" tab.

Setup Cash Rewards

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Rewards Tab
  • Click on Allow Cash Rewards to Enable Cash Rewards

Changing the Value of Points

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Point Analysis Tab
  • Enter New Points per Dollar

When setting up your child to receive cash rewards, it is important that you set the daily point sheets to have a reasonable amount associated with each of their activities so that the weekly allowance reflects what you believe your child should earn a week by doing all their mandatory chores. You can see the value of each chore when you edit the chore list. You can also see how much money your child will receive by performing all the mandatory chores in the "Point Analysis" tab. To see how much allowance your child would earn a week in if they did all their mandatory chores, look at the "Weekly Mandatory Value" column in the "Point Analysis" tab. If this is too much, either change the "Points per Dollar" on the "Points Analysis" tab, or change the points recieve per activity on the "Setup Chores" tab.

Viewing Points for Mandatory Chores

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Point Analysis Tab
  • View How Many Points are Earned Daily and Weekly for Mandatory Chores
Do I have to offer my kids cash rewards?

No, if you don't check the "Allow Cash Rewards" in the "Setup Rewards" tab, then your child can only receive non-cash rewards. When setting up non-cash rewards, you can associate the child's points to rewards that are not based on cash. For instance, you could have a reward called "Play Ball with Dad" and associate that reward to a number of points. Children love attention and for many families it is important to provide rewards that are based on spending quality time with parents rather than purly paying out cash. Another example is "Watch an Extra Hour of TV Every Day for a Week". Such a reward might encourage your child to perform chores and behave better. ChoresForRewards.com is very flexible and it allows you to setup rewards that are not only based on cash (i.e. allowance).

Disallow Cash Rewards

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Rewards Tab
  • Make Sure Allow Cash Rewards is Not Checked

Creating Non-Cash Rewards

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Rewards Tab
  • Enter Any Non-Cash Rewards
How can I only allow cash rewards?

This is simple - you can setup your child to get cash rewards (i.e. allowance) by clicking on the "Setup Rewards" tab and clicking on "Allow Cash Rewards". After that, don't add any additional rewards. This will only allow your child to cash in points for cash rewards. Keep in mind that you can change the value of points by going to the "Point Analysis" tab and changing the value of the "Points per Dollar".

Only Allow Cash Rewards

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Rewards Tab
  • Click on the Cash Rewards and Don't Enter Non-Cash Rewards
How can I only allow non-cash rewards?

This is also simple - don't check off the "Allow Cash Rewards" in the "Setup Rewards" tab. Then create rewards that are not based on monetary value (i.e. Play Ball with Dad, Get an Extra Hour of TV, etc). Setting up non-cash rewards will still motivate your child to perform chores and meet your behavior expectations.

Only Allow Non-Cash Rewards

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Setup Rewards Tab
  • Do Not Click on the Allow Cash Rewards Tab
  • Click on the Non-Cash Rewards
  • Enter Non-Cash Rewards
How do I use Chores for Rewards with children too young to select rewards?

For children that cannot login to ChoresForRewards, parents can select rewards for their child. To select a reward for your child, click on the "Select Reward for Child" tab. You will see the number of points that your child has and if your child has enough points for a reward, you will see a checkmark next to the reward. Click on the checkmark to select a reward for your child.

Even for children too young to select their own rewards, ChoresForRewards.com is a great tool to reward children for positive behavior. When selecting chores for your child, its advisable to explain to the child what reward they received and why they received the reward (i.e. they performed their chores or illustrated great behavior).

How can I select rewards for my child?

You can select rewards for your child, by clicking on the "Select Reward for Child tab". You will see the number of points that your child has and if your child has enough points for a reward, you will see a checkmark next to the reward. Click on the checkmark to select a reward for your child.

Select Reward for Child

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Select Rewards for Child Tab
  • Click on the Checkmark Icon to Select a Reward for Your Child
Can I see a history of all the rewards my children have requested?

Yes, click on the "Reward History" tab to see all the rewards that you either approved or denied. For any reward requests that you have not yet approved, click on the "Approvals" tab. You will then see requested rewards from your child and you can decide if you should approve the reward on deny the reward.

View Reward History

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Reward History Tab
Is there any easy way to increase the allowance of my child?

Yes, select the "Point Analysis" tab and change the value of the "Points per Dollar". If you decrease the points per dollar, you will increase the value of each chore and each reward. If you only want to increase the value of chores and behavior activities, then increase the "Points per Dollar" value and decrease the amount of points required for rewards in the "Setup Rewards" tab. If you do so, you will effectively be increasing your child's allowance. In other words, they will get more benefit (i.e. rewards) for less money (i.e. points).

Changing Allowance

  • Go to Your Home Page and Click on the Point Analysis Tab
  • Decrease Points per Dollar to Increase Allowance
Forums Why am I not being allowed to enter my own posts on the Forums?

To enter comments on the Forums page, you need to be a member of ChoresForRewards. If you have not already registered with ChoresForRewards, you must do so by clicking on "Sign Up Now" on the homepage.

Once you are a member of ChoresForRewards, you can only add comments (i.e. posts) if you have a display name for the forums. You will know if you don't have a display name, because you will see a message on the Forums page that says "You currently have read-only access to the forums. To participate in the forums, click on My Forum Settings and create a display name. This is a security precaution because as a user, you don't necessarily want your real name to appear as the name on the forums.

To create a display name on the forums, click on "My Forum Settings" on the "Forums" tab and enter a name that you want to be displayed with your forum comments. After you do this, you will be able to enter posts on the forums. Note, anybody can read the forums, but you have to be a ChoresForRewards member to write on the forums.

Setting Access to Write on the Forums

  • Sign In and Click on the Forums Tab
  • If You See a Message Saying You Have Read-Only Access, then You Need to Set a Display Name
  • Click on My Forum Seetings
  • Enter a Display Name and Press Update Profile
  • You Will Now Be Able to Participate in the Forums
Can I submit an idea for a new forum to be hosted by ChoresForRewards.com?

Yes, you can post new forum ideas to the "Feature Requests" forum.

Can my children read forum messages?

Anybody including children can read forums comments from the ChoresForRewards homepage. However, when your child logins into ChoresForRewards, they will not be able to see the forums from their homepage.

Can my children write in the forums?

No, children are not allowed to contribute to the forums. Only registered parents can write in the forums.

Parenting Resources How can I suggest additional parenting resources for ChoresForRewards.com?

ChoresForRewards is always looking for new parent resources to post on the "Parenting Resources" tab. Send your ideas to support@choresforrewards.com.

Will ChoresForRewards.com host parenting articles that I wrote?

Absolutely, if you have a parenting article that you wrote and would like ChoresForRewards.com to host the article, then assuming the article has reasonable content, ChoresForRewards.com will host the article for free. Hosting your article on ChoresForRewards is a great way to share your article with a community of parents. It will also be available in all popular search engines for non-members to read.